10 people share the best love advice they've ever been given

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The advice of those around us about our relationships often has the gift of giving us hives. Only sometimes, these little seeds that they and they plant in our heads in pain of hindsight can prove to be quite beneficial. Ready-made or more personalized formulas, which will ultimately have a significant impact on the way we analyze our behavior, and what we can do wrong to make our loves screw up so much.

We wanted to know the ones that made you change, move forward, grow. So we asked ten of you to describe them to us.

Emma, ​​35: "We're not here to convince anyone"

"The thing that comes to mind right away is a phrase that my friends have often said to me, but that my shrink helped me to really realize: it's not 'you'. Not your fault if a story doesn't work, that the person you like doesn't want to be with you, or that your affair doesn't turn into a love story. It doesn't mean anything about what you are 'worth', what you are. It is important not to question and flagellate because of that.

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Sure, sometimes people have destructive behaviors and they have to work on them, but most of the time, if someone doesn't want you, it's just that they're not the right person for you, and you really must not tell yourself that you are not good enough for them and that you are not worth anything. We are not here to convince anyone. We're here to find our partner, someone who will make us feel really good. It's been a few years but I would have loved to understand it younger instead of torturing myself about what I was doing wrong."

Louise, 32 years old: "The concept of the law of the spirit"

"A close friend once introduced me to the concept of 'the law of the spirit.' Well, it's not because we think about it that we are necessarily madly in love with her, it's as often as your mind needs to furnish and keep the last guy, the last girl you appreciated in the foreground.

From the moment I understood that, it allowed me to play down. We didn't let go of the guy in her life, it's just that there's no one else around at the time and your brain is playing tricks on you. It also applies in the sense that if you always see a guy, you can't get him out of your head. You have to cut ties to move on."

Maeva, 31: "We don't know if he's the man of her life until the end"

"It was a few years ago, I was separated from my boyfriend who I had spent almost ten years with, because I was no longer sure of myself. I was watching A Star is Born (which I found boring by the way) and when Lady Gaga sings 'Don't wanna know another kiss, Don't wanna feel another touch', it made me cry. I realized that in fact, that's it, I I had gone around having fun and it was him I wanted, except that he didn't want me anymore.

Fortunately, a few months later, we got back together, and we decided to buy an apartment together. I had doubts, I wondered if it was good to buy with him because I didn't know if he was the man of my life? And a friend's mother told me something that I thought was good. 'You don't know if he's the man of your life until the end of his life, not before having lived it'. In her own example, she was convinced that her ex-husband was the man of her life when not at all. And that really reassured me: you can't know in advance, you have to try and get started. Since then, everything has been fine."