Routine in the couple: 10 little tips to avoid it

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With Valentine's Day 2021 approaching, we keep hearing about couples, love, life as a couple, sexuality... And inevitably, this can have the consequence of pushing us to take stock of our own couple. The observation is obvious: we are gradually getting bogged down in routine. If it did not seem dangerous to us at the start, we now see its limits. So much so that we wonder if we want to stay with this person. What if we told you that the flame can start again very quickly? Are you skeptical? Here are 10 tips to convince you and initiate a change to break the routine in the couple.

1 - Leave sweet nothings

Obviously, this change will not be made with a lot of revolutions. Breaking the routine is a daily act that does not necessarily require great effort. In the morning before leaving, put a post-it on the fridge or on the steering wheel of your spouse's car. Avoid SMS or emails, writing by hand shows that you take this to heart and that you have decided to change your habits.

2 - Plan a disconnection day

You have nothing planned next Saturday? And if you go for a walk in nature? In these times of curfew, we are all returning to essential activities. And good for us! The only rule: leave the cell phone at home. You will be able to communicate and devote yourself only to the other and what surrounds you.

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3 - Have an improvised aperitif

What if tonight you don't watch the 8 p.m. news? Anyway, we already know all the headlines. Never mind, prepare yourself a nice aperitif with things you love to snack on and a good cocktail. Sit in the living room and chat about everything and nothing for a few minutes. In this crazy world, we sometimes forget how much the discussions where we remake the world together are the best...

4 - Revive the glamor

When you've been in a relationship for a long time, you no longer have a problem peeing with the door open, brushing your teeth in front of your boyfriend or girlfriend, or cutting your nails while telling him about your day. Stop! To make a relationship last over the long term and break the routine in the couple, keeping a dose of glamor is essential. How did you act at the start of the relationship? Try to find these few reflexes...

5 - Create the lack of the other

When we live together, we are used to sleeping, eating together... We go on vacation together, we go to the beautiful family together... And if we have the same friends, we even go on holiday together. To break the routine, nothing more effective than creating the lack! So, don't hesitate to leave for a few days each on your own or one at a time. We promise you a caliente reunion!

6 - Make love in an "unexpected" place

The bed, the sofa and the shower have their limits... To spice up your intimate life and therefore break the routine in the couple, nothing better than making love in a place that is not made for that. In the forest, in the middle of a field, in your car, on the beach, in a fitting room... Let your desires do the talking!

7 - Propose a couple project

Buying a house or an apartment, baby, adopting an animal, travel, sporting challenge, organizing your wedding... there is no shortage of ideas! Having projects together is the secret of a couple that lasts and sets goals to achieve. Be careful to always remain in kindness and positivity. This project must not become a source of tension between you.

8 - Go on weekends only for two

This can be difficult if you have children, but it is nevertheless essential for the good health of your couple. The editorial staff has an unstoppable trick to get together and get back to basics: rent a fitted van and leave for the equivalent of two nights to discover a corner of your region that we don't know. You will tell us about it!

9 - Take pictures of each other

It sounds benign, but it quickly makes sense. Taking a picture of the other means that you enjoy looking at them, that you want to take the time to do so. These are small moments for two that you can then share over an aperitif (as developed in point number 3). We thus keep a chronological trace of our history and the events that marked it.

10 - Give small gifts outside of tradition

Valentine's Day, Christmas, birthdays... these are times when you can feel "forced" to give a gift (and again). But think about the little touches from time to time. A bouquet of flowers, a perfume, an object, a postcard... the monetary value of this gift does not count. It's the message behind that is worth all the gold in the world.

Whether you have been in a relationship for a few months or several years, here are some tips to put in place today to continue to fully live your beautiful love story! Of course, let's remember: there is no perfect couple, except in romantic films and fairy tales, so stop the pressure!

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