Tips to find a couple relationship after baby

By Florence Escaravagepantagement by e-mail

Baby's arrival is accompanied by many changes...How to find a couple relationship?Testimony of Sophie, 32, married and mother of two children (1 year and 5 years): “Since the birth of our last child, my husband no longer speaks to me, deeply.Our conversation subjects are confined to children, the logistics of the house and again ... We no longer have many sexual relations because he works a lot and I, after my work, I let myself be overflowed by the house, the homework, themeal.I have the impression that we are forgetting ourselves ... How to get my spouse to open more?How to revive the flame in our couple?»».

Compartmentalizing your home in dedicated spaces

In order to ensure healthy operation for the whole family, you have to learn to compartmentalize the different entities: the couple, the children, the family ... Everyone must have a space devoted to them and time exclusively for him.Everyone must find their place while respecting the intimacy of each other.For example, it is essential that the couple has their parental room because the room is first of all a conjugal place conducive to intimacy.Children can also have a clean space, a room or a games room in order to evolve and build themselves.The living room or the kitchen could be the space dedicated to the family, the gathering place for dinner or watch a film all together and have a good time.

New conversation subjects other than children

"I would like us to talk about something other than children ...".If you happen to think, it is that you let yourself be overwhelmed by everyday life and your couple suffers.Favor your couple by trying to understand how to reconnect.The start -up point is to be interested in the desires and desires of your partner.You can talk about what you like, what you like in your work, the quality of a link with a friend.You can also talk about your fantasies, your common projects ... or just a film that touched you so much.You talk about you then you also ask him what his desires, his aspirations, his fantasies, his difficulties are.The resumption of a real couple communication also generates more of physical rapprochement which participates both in a reconnection of the couple.

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Pamper her couple like a child: 1 + 1 = 3

Stay curious and attentive to your half.It is an essential mark of interest to show him that his joy, his happiness, his development are always very important in your eyes.

Couples do not make "one" but "three": the "I", the "you" and the "we".This "us" must feed on all the differences that constitute the couple, the personality, the desires and the character of each.Everyone is responsible for the proper functioning of their couple.Favor moments for two, spend time together, are interested in the other, slide some compliments.Call your couple as if it were another of your children.

How to bring your spouse to open?

Is your man more like lining in his cave to solve his problems?He flees the conflict and no longer wants to communicate?Here's how to help him open.First, choose the ideal moment to approach the subject.Avoid for example the return of work or the days when you feel it tired.Approach the subject in a posed manner.If it is ready and available to conversation, it is that the moment is well chosen.If on the contrary, you feel that he is breaking, avoids or flees the conversation, it is better to come back to it at another moment and to no longer insist.

Preferably, approach the subject after sharing a good time with him or after exchanging positive words on your couple, your children or your projects.Do not try to bring the conversation after a negative conversation or a reproach, that would only get the situation worse.Do not hesitate to remind him how much you want him, how much you love him and that your goal is to bring you both closer, to strengthen your love for each other.

To question ourselves

It's a great gift to open a conversation.If you feel the other closed, maybe you can think of a behavior on your part that may have hit it.Start a conversation by questioning opens up listening and therefore in dialogue.This requires putting pride and pride aside.Accepting to be mistaken, recognizing it and assuming it is not easy for one or the other, but it is a nice way to close the parenthesis of a period of couple in couple.